Could I Be Psychically Attacking Someone?

After reading about psychic attacks and their devastating effects, you might find yourself facing an uncomfortable but important question: what if I'm the one psychically attacking someone else? This is a deeply courageous question to ask yourself, and if you're even considering this possibility, it speaks to a level of self-awareness and spiritual maturity that should be commended, not condemned.

First and foremost, breathe, and please don't spiral into self-hatred. Psychic attacks, like vampirism, are often unconscious processes that arise from our own pain, trauma, and unhealed wounds. Unlike the more passive energy drain of psychic vampirism, psychic attacks typically stem from intense emotions like rage, jealousy, resentment, or a desire for revenge. These feelings are part of the human experience, and having them doesn't make you a bad person; it makes you human.

The difference between having negative feelings and actually psychically attacking someone lies in the intensity, duration, and unconscious energetic projection of those emotions. When we're deeply hurt, betrayed, or angry, sometimes our pain becomes so overwhelming that it unconsciously seeks an outlet - and that outlet can be directing harmful energy toward the person who triggered these feelings.

Here's what I want you to understand: recognizing that you might be psychically attacking someone is actually the first step toward healing - both for you and for them. Most people who engage in psychic attacks are completely that unaware they're doing it. The fact that you're questioning your own behavior means you're already on the path toward resolution.

Let me share some insight from my own journey with this shadow aspect of spiritual experience. When I finally broke down and approached the person who was psychically attacking me, they were horrified, while I was very angry. But the truth was that consciously, at least, this person only wanted resolution. These attacks were actually just their psyche's misguided attempt to protect them and reclaim their power. The energy behind the attacks wasn't evil - it was wounded, desperate, and seeking justice in the only way it knew how.

So, if you suspect that you might be psychically attacking someone, here's what you can do to stop the cycle and heal the underlying wounds that are driving this behavior.

Immediate Steps to Stop Psychic Attack

Acknowledge and take responsibility

The first step is honest acknowledgment without drowning in shame. Say to yourself, out loud if possible: "I acknowledge that I may be psychically attacking [person's name], and I take responsibility for this behavior. I commit to stopping this pattern and healing whatever is driving it." This acknowledgment alone can begin to shift the energy and reduce the intensity of the attack.

Perform an immediate cord cutting

Just like with vampirism, psychic attacks often involve energetic cords or attachments to the target. You can follow the cord cutting ritual I personally use, featured here, or explore the internet for a technique that feels right for you. Assuming you address the emotions underlying the attack, this practice can provide immediate relief for both you and the person you've been attacking.

Consciously withdraw your energy

Set a clear intention to call back any negative energy you've sent toward this person. Visualize any dark, harmful energy you've projected returning to you, but as it comes back, see it being transformed into neutral or healing energy. You might say something like: "I call back all energy I have sent toward [person's name]. I transform this energy into light and love, and I send only healing and peace to them now."

Send healing energy instead

Once you've withdrawn your attack energy, consciously send healing, peaceful energy to the person instead. This doesn't mean you have to forgive them or want them in your life - it simply means you're choosing to stop actively harming them. Visualize golden or white light surrounding them, or simply hold the intention that they are free from your negative projections.

Understanding the Root Causes of Psychic Attack

Identify your triggers

Psychic attacks rarely happen in a vacuum; they're usually triggered by specific behaviors, situations, or memories. Take time to identify what exactly triggered your attack energy. Was it betrayal? Envy? Abandonment? Humiliation? Injustice? Understanding your triggers helps you address the root cause rather than just the symptoms.

Explore your pain

Psychic attacks almost always stem from deep, unprocessed pain. This might be childhood trauma, recent betrayal, or accumulated hurt from years of difficult relationships. The attack energy is often your inner child's way of trying to protect you or get justice (I can remember hearing my attacker unconsciously demand that there must be some kind of justice for my actions). Journaling about your pain, working with a therapist, or exploring these feelings through meditation can help you understand what's really driving the attack.

Examine your sense of powerlessness

Psychic attacks often arise when we feel completely powerless in a situation. Maybe someone has hurt you and you feel like you have no recourse, no way to defend yourself, or no way to make them understand your pain. The attack becomes your psyche's attempt to reclaim power and control. Recognizing this pattern can help you find healthier ways to reclaim your personal power.

Look at your relationship with anger

Many people who engage in psychic attacks have complicated relationships with anger. Maybe you were taught that anger is "bad" or "unspiritual," so instead of expressing it directly, it gets unconsciously projected (this was precisely the case with my primary attacker; they had been conditioned since childhood to repress their anger). Or perhaps you've been hurt so many times that anger feels like your only protection. Understanding your relationship with anger can help you find healthier ways to process and express this essential emotion.

Healing the Underlying Wounds of Psychic Attack

Work with a trauma-informed therapist

Psychic attacks often stem from trauma, and healing this trauma is crucial for stopping the pattern. Look for a therapist who understands both psychological and spiritual aspects of healing. Modalities like EMDR, somatic therapy, or trauma-focused cognitive behavioral therapy can be particularly effective for processing the deep wounds that fuel attack energy.

Practice radical self-compassion

The part of you that's attacking others is usually a wounded part that's trying to protect you in the only way it knows how. Instead of hating this part of yourself, try to approach it with compassion. What would you say to a small child who was lashing out because they were hurt and scared? Extend that same compassion to the wounded part of yourself.

Engage in shadow work

Shadow work involves exploring and integrating the parts of ourselves that we've rejected or repressed. Often, the capacity for psychic attack comes from shadow aspects like rage, jealousy, or the desire for revenge. Working with a qualified practitioner or using shadow work techniques can help you reclaim these energies and use them in healthier ways.

Process your grief

Psychic attacks often mask deep grief - grief over what was lost, what was never received, or what could have been. Allowing yourself to fully feel and process this grief can reduce the need to attack others. This might involve crying, ritualistic release work, or simply allowing yourself to feel the full depth of your loss.

Reclaiming Your Power in Healthy Ways

Set energetic boundaries

Instead of attacking others, learn to set strong energetic boundaries. This might involve visualization work, protective rituals, or simply practicing saying "no" to people and situations that drain you. When you know how to protect yourself energetically, you're less likely to feel the need to attack others.

Express your truth

Often, psychic attacks arise when we feel unheard or invisible. Find healthy ways to express your truth - through writing, art, music, or honest conversation with trusted friends. When you feel heard and witnessed, the desperate energy that fuels attacks naturally diminishes. (This can be a challenging one; over time, I repeatedly engaged in dialogues with my attacker in hopes of getting to the bottom of it, but they were unwilling or unable to go beyond surface-level civil conversation and engage with their true feelings.)

Cultivate your inner fire

The energy that goes into psychic attacks can be redirected into creative, passionate pursuits. Take up martial arts, intense exercise, creative projects, or advocacy work. Channel that fierce energy into something constructive rather than destructive.

Practice healthy anger expression

Learn to express anger in direct, healthy ways rather than letting it build up and explode energetically. This might involve assertiveness training, physical exercise, or working with a therapist to develop emotional regulation skills.

Spiritual Practices for Transformation

Energy transmutation work

Learn to consciously transform negative energy into positive energy. When you feel the urge to attack someone, pause and ask: "How can I transform this energy into something healing?" You might visualize dark energy being transformed into light, or use breathwork to transmute the energy within your own body.

Forgiveness work (for yourself)

This doesn't mean forgiving the person who hurt you; it means forgiving yourself for engaging in psychic attacks. Self-forgiveness is crucial for breaking the cycle of attack and counter-attack. You might work with a spiritual counselor, use forgiveness meditations, or create your own forgiveness ritual.

Daily energy clearing

Make energy clearing a daily practice to prevent the buildup of negative emotions that can lead to attacks. This might involve meditation, journaling, exercise, or any practice that helps you process and release difficult emotions before they accumulate.

Cultivate love and compassion

This might sound impossible when you're dealing with deep hurt, but gradually cultivating love and compassion - starting with yourself - can transform the energy that fuels attacks. This doesn't mean becoming a doormat; it means choosing love as your default response rather than attack.

Making Amends and Moving Forward

Energetic apologies

Even if you can't or shouldn't contact the person directly, you can offer energetic apologies. Sit quietly and direct thoughts of genuine remorse toward the person, asking for forgiveness and promising to stop the harmful behavior. This can be surprisingly healing for both parties.

Ritual release work

Create a ritual to formally release your attack energy and commit to a new way of being. This might involve writing a letter you never send, burning sage while stating your intentions, or creating a ceremony that feels meaningful to you. Rituals help anchor your commitment to change on a deep, unconscious level.

Monitor your progress

Pay attention to your emotional state and energy levels. As you stop attacking others, you'll likely feel lighter, more peaceful, and more energized. This is because attack energy is exhausting and toxic to your own system as well.

Preventing Future Psychic Attacks

Develop emotional regulation skills

Learn to catch intense emotions before they build up to attack levels. This might involve mindfulness practices, breathing techniques, or working with a therapist to develop better emotional regulation skills.

Create healthy outlets for intense emotions

Have a plan for what to do when you feel overwhelmed by anger, hurt, or other intense emotions. This might involve calling a trusted friend, going for a run, journaling, or engaging in any activity that helps you process emotions in a healthy way.

Build a support network

Often, psychic attacks happen when we feel isolated and alone with our pain. Build a network of trusted friends, family members, or spiritual practitioners who can support you through difficult times. Don't be afraid to talk to them about your difficult emotions toward the other person; it is bottling these up than can trigger attack in the first place.

Practice regular self-care

When you're well-rested, nourished, and emotionally balanced, you're much less likely to engage in psychic attacks. Make self-care a priority, not a luxury.

Working with Professional Help

If you're struggling to stop attacking others, if the attacks are severe, or if you're dealing with intense emotions that feel overwhelming, it's important to seek professional help. A qualified therapist or spiritual practitioner can provide tools and support that you might not be able to access on your own. Look for therapists or spiritual counselors who understand both psychological and energetic aspects of healing. They should be comfortable discussing concepts like psychic attacks while also having solid training in trauma and mental health. Personally, I have found the emerging AI therapy apps (I love Ash, https://www.talktoash.com/) to be beyond helpful in so many regards - a great option if you're nervous about seeing a therapist or just can't afford it.

Some people find that working with experienced shamans or energy healers can be particularly effective. These practitioners can help identify and heal the spiritual wounds that fuel psychic attack energy.

The Path Forward

Engaging in psychic attacks doesn't make you a bad person - it makes you a wounded person who needs healing. Your capacity for harm is matched by your capacity for healing and love. The fact that you're reading this and wanting to change shows that your true nature is one of compassion and growth.

People can completely transform their relationship with anger and conflict through dedicated inner work. The energy that once went into attacking others can be redirected into creativity, passion, and positive change in the world.

Psychic attacks often create cycles of harm - you attack someone, they attack back (consciously or unconsciously), and the cycle continues. By choosing to stop your part in this cycle, you're not only healing yourself, but potentially breaking a pattern that could continue for generations. When you heal the wounds that drive psychic attacks, you're not just helping yourself and your target, you're contributing to the healing of our collective consciousness. Every person who chooses love over attack, healing over harm, makes the world a little bit brighter.

Final Thoughts

If you suspect you've been psychically attacking someone, please know that recognizing this is a profound act of courage and spiritual maturity. The path forward isn't about perfect behavior or never feeling angry again; it's about choosing conscious response over unconscious reaction, healing over harm, and love over fear.

The wounded parts of you that have been attacking others are not your enemies - they're parts of you that need healing, compassion, and integration. By doing this work, you're not only stopping the harm you may be causing others, you're also freeing yourself from the prison of unconscious reactivity.

Remember: you have the power to choose how you respond to pain. You can choose to be a force for healing in the world, starting with healing yourself. The path isn't always easy, but it's always worth it.

May you find the courage to face your shadows, the wisdom to heal your wounds, and the strength to choose love over fear. You are more powerful than you know, and that power is meant to be used for healing, not harm.